BECOMING YOURSELF

Relationships are complicated, but they bring out the best or worst in us. Most of us in this generation are now struggling more to find true love than our parents and the generations before. It is not because those dynamics have changed, but because people around us have become more for themselves than for others.

My belief system when it comes to love is the same as yours when it comes to being emotional, but when it comes to being a part of a relationship, I believe one should have the ability to become the best version of themselves. Not because they are in love and it should be their responsibility to keep their partners happy, but because they love themselves more when they are with them.

As I move forward towards discovering greater truths of life, I also want to understand myself more so that I can understand the other person. I think love is not about merely coming into a relationship and giving. It is more about how deeply you connect with yourself, how deeply you know yourself to love the other person, and how you surrender to the devotion of love for that same person. I do not mean to bore you with all the knowledge that I have of love and wisdom, of course. However, there is something so beautiful about the love which is quiet, understanding, and gives you the freedom to think or do whatever you choose. At the same time, it teaches you to become better and holds you on the days which are bitter.

We as humans have been evolving for thousands of years, and yet the definition of love changes over time. It depends on perspective on how we see each other truly, but also on how love changes in the process of becoming the true versions of ourselves. However, no matter how much the definitions change, “love is a true devotion and friendship” stays intact. It is not only the devotion towards a partner that makes me want to be with you forever, but also about how you like me to be with you. It is the very promise of reshaping your limits and boundaries to meet your other half. I think that’s something platonic to think about.

People, however, have changed how they see love, express it, experience it, and say it. Partnership and companionship are something that come out of the feeling of friendship that lasts. I have made friends from different industries, travels, age groups, and institutions. I have seen and experienced friendships in a million ways. As someone’s little sister, a sister, a friend, and a daughter. After all of this, I have understood only one thing: that it comes with the promise of staying together no matter what. For me, every relationship is important and plays a pivotal role in shaping us as people or the humans of this changing society. It helps us bring change to the very society we live in.

Travelling and trekking have personally played a great role for me in finding who I am, the same as relationships in my life. Every person has bought a new way of thinking, maturity, and understanding what is underneath human connections. It’s one thing that I find which is common in all of us: that we want connection as much as the other person, but people do not want to reshape themselves as much as they talk about it. It is significant to open your mind and heart to new experiences, travels, love, and whatnot, which helps in inspiring and reshaping your own world.

As the world has become wider, so have our choices when it comes to choosing the right person when it comes to love. They say that this word is a pond and we are fishes. But we have to be careful for the fish we bring home. On the contrary, seeing your partner as a friend, human, and different individual is also important, as all three come with different perspectives. It is equally pivotal to realise that if you are devoted to that companionship, make sure you don’t lose your devotion to yourself.

I am a believer that if you have chosen your person, make sure the person also reminds you that you have to see yourself too.