SILENCED
"If you can't understand my silence, you cannot understand my words."
We are growing up, the world is
expanding around us, but our thoughts and roots, are they flourishing? Are we
moving towards a better world or making it more challenging for the next
generation?
It has been said that silence is the biggest answer, yet most of us fail to understand the meaning of it. While we grew up in the embrace of our elders and shared our thoughts, words, and feelings, they often forgot to understand when their child became silent and stopped telling them about their day. When that individual has stopped expressing the things that used to bother them or make them happy. We are so caught up in our own world, that we forgot the person sitting in front of us is struggling, it can be your son, daughter, wife, or husband.

A child is born in the world
where there is sun, rain, storms, winters, summers, rainbows, and every season;
these elements come into their life. But they arrive in terms of failure,
hardships, wounds, verbal abuse, or physical dominance. As they grow, step
outside, laugh with friends, scrape their knees, and make friends, beginning to
learn what it means to connect. With time, as their teenage years arrive, they
dive into friendship with a pure heart, with the fading lines of right and wrong—just
giving love. But then, that child starts to become someone with a name,
identity, understanding of the world, and voice. They step beyond school walls
into the world, which offers opportunities to become a being of your own. In
that moment, isn’t it our role as a loved one or parent to guide them? to make
them understand no matter how much the world expands around them, they will
always have a place called HOME.
I have mentioned in my previous blogs that if a person doesn't find love inside their home, they will find a way to find comfort outside. We are growing and moving forward, but in the middle of all of this, we are forgetting our own people and kids. The dynamics of every person and how they grow old are different because every household has its own way of taking decisions and sharing moments of love and laughter. I always believed a child grows great when a parent and people around them teach them to get through the hardships and difficulties through laughter and smiles, keeping the inner child alive. Parents teach us to become successful and get settled, but who will teach us the way? Isn't our first school home? So, why are we treating this school as a corporate organization? Isn't it sad how we have changed over time? How is a home now just a house where people are seeing each other as a benefit?
A child finds it difficult to understand the meaning of "stress," "depression," and "burden." But when they grew up, the first thing they saw was negative. Because the society we live in embraces the negative more than the positive. I have seen elders treating their kid as a passion project. Over the period of time, from the stories I have heard and the people I have seen and talked to, I have learned ample things. Among those things, I always found lost love, vanished understanding, and invisible and unsaid responsibilities. They always say to me, We live for family, but why not live for ourselves?
The pandemic took so much from
us. We have read about wars, terrorism, crimes, diseases, and other stuff, yet
we take those near us for granted. As we keep running towards greater purpose,
we need to pause and see around if one of us is struggling to find a way. Not a
way towards success or greater monetary benefits, but a way to home, a loving
home. I believe that our parents have passed on what they have experienced and
have been taught. But it is important to observe your child. Has he/she been
the same as when they were in their early 20s? Relatives, friends,
people, professionals, and competitors—all of them are already there to burden
or crush an individual's confidence. Let’s not become the world and crush the
soul that is there.
Conversations, story time,
late-night games, badminton sessions, and ice cream sessions—all of these
things we used to cherish have been lost over time. As adults, we need to
ensure that our kids feel safe inside their home. Safe not physically, but mentally,
emotionally, and liberated. In a way, your kids start sharing stories and
expressing feelings with you. What is a bigger success than this, that you have
created a home that is not a corporate organization or passion project but
where people flourish?
We have lost so much over the
years, let’s not lose what we have.
Well-written
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